Saturday, August 13, 2011

Reunited, and It Feels So Good

Having a ball at my 30th high school reunion. Last night a bunch of us (30?) gathered at a bar that we had virtually to ourselves, outdoor seating, and enjoyed a lovely summer evening getting caught up on each other.

In just a few minutes my two high school buddies and I are meeting to do it all again tonight - this time at a restaurant, with appetizers, dinner, the whole 9-yards.

Something so neat (and slightly weird) about being in a group where everyone is exactly the same age. Only time that happens anymore, and that is only every ten years. School is like that, isn't it? We put kids into homogenous groupings according to age, and then we break it further down into abilities, interest, college bound-ness, and the like. I was in education for years, I get it. But life is kind of like that, too, much as we may spend large amounts of time with a wide-variety of people, we tend to group ourselves according to what we have in common - our shared interests, skills and lives.

The great thing about a 30th reunion, is that everyone is so over themselves. We were all commenting on how much more fun it was than the 10-year, where we all had our heads up our you-know-where, thinking we were it on a stick with all our 28-year-old know-everything-ness.

Twenty years later we've all been humbled. We now know how little we know about most things, and what we do know, we know. And don't need a committee to agree. We are comfortable with our knowing and unknowing in a way that only a few hard knocks can provide. Nobody gets to 48 unscathed. Some might present as though they did, but if you talk to them for more than five minutes, you quickly learn that is simply not the case.

STM's advice to me before I packed up the CR-V and drove the two-hours south, was simply this: "Everyone wants everyone else to be happy and well. That's all we want for each other at this point. And to be at peace."


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kario said...

That STM is such a wise soul!

So glad you are enjoying yourself! I missed my last reunion but, thanks to Facebook, I think the next one will be better anyway!

Elizabeth said...

So good to hear -- I have my 30th in the fall (and my 48th b'day in a couple of weeks!) and I've been debating on whether or not to go home for it. The balance is tipping in favor, now.

Amber said...

Boy, that is so true. Have a great time!

:) ox

Dee said...

Wow! I can't remember being as wise as you when I was 48. I can remember a letter I received four weeks after graduation. In it, my friend said, "Isn't it wonderful to know that now that we've graduated we know all we'll ever need to know."

And, the really shake-your-head-over-this thing is that I agreed!!!!

It took me only about an half hour of living to learn that I knew next to nothing. And I've been learning daily since then.

You and your group of 30-year celebrators are so far ahead of the pack!!!!! said...

I didn't know it was YOUR reunion weekend too! Love STM's words. LOVE THEM. Love.

Tanya Savko said...

So glad you got to do that! Hope it was fun, and I love what STM said. So true.

Lori said...

Maybe you'd love Facebook then. I joined only because a classmate invited me to, and since then we've had several mini-reunions, and each one endears those people to me even more. What's very strange is most of them are people I never hung out with in school, but after 30 years you just share that same commonality and love of where you've come from.