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<span style="font-size: large;">The episode that dropped today is Part One of two-parts on the subject of apologizing. She interviews <a href="https://www.harrietlerner.com/">Harriet Lerner</a>, and they discuss the book, <i>Why Won't You Apologize: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts. </i>Their episode, </span><span style="font-size: large;"><a href="https://brenebrown.com/podcast/harriet-lerner-and-brene-im-sorry-how-to-apologize-why-it-matters-part-1-of-2/">I'm Sorry: How to Apologize & Why it Matters</a>, is deep, funny, helpful, vulnerable, and you'll never shop for bananas the same way again. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">* Big apology no-no, using "but"</span>Carrie Wilson Linkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586157395539583862noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6190519338493655360.post-13574332013507287612020-04-29T05:13:00.001-07:002020-04-29T05:13:27.909-07:00Baker's Dozen<span style="font-size: large;">The search for the Hummers continues. Wil had it in his head we would find twelve on Monday. We've identified each and every one within a one-mile radius from our home. It was time to take it up a notch. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Right away we found four, boom, boom, boom, boom. We were energized and encouraged to keep going. With so little traffic on the road, we could see both sides of it and he took one and I took the other, shouting out, "There's one!" to every Hummer and sort-of-Hummer-looking-Toyota. Extra joy when we found one in burgundy. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I convinced him a Brink's truck was a type of Hummer, so we got our twelfth and I was able to start our way home. He was happy. I was happy. It took 20 miles and chewed up our morning, but that was kind of the point. He was singing church songs from the backseat, and I was lost in my own reverie, when all of a sudden he spotted another one parked along the side of the road. "There's another one! We found a baker's dozen!"</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">He has not asked me one time when all of this will be over, when church will resume, or his job, class, his beloved Mondays with Timmy. I know he looks forward to all of that, but he is managing to take this one day at a time. He exemplifies the Law of Attraction and manifests both what he wants and what he needs. </span><span style="font-size: large;">He's finding joy in what is available to him right here, right now, and believes in abundance--not only will he have plenty, he'll have plenty plus one.</span>Carrie Wilson Linkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586157395539583862noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6190519338493655360.post-79166347179267413462020-04-27T05:38:00.003-07:002020-04-27T05:38:30.011-07:00Something Worth Keeping<span style="font-size: large;">For whatever reason, the Comcast account I've had for a million years, would not accept my password. It quickly became obvious that I would need a new password, which set off a whole chain of events, culminating with me losing all my "mailboxes" in Apple Mail, that were associated with Comcast.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Dozens of folders I'd meticulously kept since I got the account... when was that, 20 years ago? I am a backer-upper, so I figured there would be a way to reclaim them using my external hard drive, Time Machine, or some combination thereof.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">After many Google searches and attempts, the files were not restored. I could probably call Apple and try and have someone walk me through it on the phone, but the phone weighs two hundred pounds and the likely wait time stops me from doing so.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">It feels a little like walking into my basement and discovering someone has given away all my junk. There is relief the basement is clean, but I never went through it to make sure something in there wasn't worth keeping.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Truth be told? I couldn't really tell you what 98% of those files were called or what they held. The ones I'm finding myself needing now, I have recreated and found messages from what I guess is the "cloud." </span><br />
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<br />Carrie Wilson Linkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586157395539583862noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6190519338493655360.post-82874322543866530442020-04-25T06:36:00.001-07:002020-04-25T06:36:19.683-07:00A Cure to Loneliness<span style="font-size: large;">I've been working on this post for two days. That is to say, I've opened it up and tried to type, but was interrupted for any number of reasons--most having to do with "finding fugitives." Wil has been obsessed with "Dog the Bounty Hunter" for years, and he's turned it into a game. During this time of confinement, he's been going on walks with one of us. It's great, he walks fast and is getting much-needed exercise. The downside is the walks are--shockingly--driven by something as random as finding four Hummers (fugitives). When three, but not four are found, there is no peace. Fortunately, there are several models of cars he's willing to call a "Hummer," but sometimes when OCD is particularly pronounced, we have to not only find one, but in a particular color. Drove 15 miles and walked three times yesterday,</span><span style="font-size: large;"> looking for a "burgundy red" one, to no avail. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">He's lonely. He misses church, work, going to the mall, seeing his friends, going to restaurants. No amount of Hummers are going to replace what's been taken away.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I often listen to podcasts as I putter around my house. I love </span><span style="font-size: large;">Brené Brown's new podcast,</span><span style="font-size: large;"> <a href="https://brenebrown.com/unlockingus/">Unlocking Us</a>. What I loved about her interview with <a href="https://brenebrown.com/podcast/dr-vivek-murthy-and-brene-on-loneliness-and-connection/">Dr. Vivek Murthy</a>, on loneliness and connection, was their conversation around the disconnect with those that don't share our opinions, values, and beliefs, which creates its own sense of loneliness.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">The tendency is to vilify, name-call, blame and dismiss those with differing opinions. As Peggy Noonan says in her great article, </span><span style="font-size: large;"><a href="https://www.wsj.com/articles/what-comes-after-the-coronavirus-storm-11587684752?emailToken=e85fbbf7c210cc4c39941abe8f13fde3j5LDK6Ak/A2HWnzIS8RdwegCQ9njY27LocY6LZQ3+bg/j4qNHvy8f4hITIddltQVM0wtb0jKgITgo+364JbPw9A1LOiDxYu8/VyWbeGsgYY%3D&reflink=article_imessage_share">What Comes After the Coronavirus Storm?</a> </span><span style="font-size: large;">"... </span><span style="font-size: large;">we’re too quick to categorize, and ungenerous in our categorizations. Everybody isn’t only the role they’re playing at the moment."</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">During one of our walks we stopped and visited with my 93-year-old neighbor who was working in her yard. We asked her if she needed anything? Could we do anything for her? "Oh, honey, no, we have everything we need," she answered, then went on to compare these times to WWII, and her high school years being "war-torn." "I just pray this brings us all together--helps to unite our country and world. We need that so badly," she said. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Many of us are experiencing unprecedented loneliness. Let's unify in unprecedented ways. Let's have unprecedented amounts of empathy and understanding for one another. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I was inspired to tune into my John Denver Pandora station, and was gifted with "You Fill Up My Senses" "Annie's Song," and "Leaving on a Jet Plane," interspersed with some great James Taylor, Carole King, and Jim Croce. I knew every word to every song.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">But I doubted myself. I listened and sang and before I let the words out, I asked myself, <i>Are those really the lyrics?</i> Then, I sang something else that was wrong, because I didn't believe I knew in my bones what was right.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">In the last month, a lot has been redefined, reconsidered, reprioritized. <a href="https://cac.org/the-patterns-that-are-always-true-2020-03-29/#audio">Richard Rohr</a> is defining this time as an "initiation."</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I have been using my <a href="https://alanafairchild.com/product/mother-mary-oracle/">Mother Mary Oracle Deck</a> more lately. I have many decks, and this is my all-time favorite. Several times I've drawn Our Lady of Soul Birth. It's a message for me, but that message is for all of us: something is trying to be birthed.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">We keep hearing the term "unprecedented" as it relates to what's going on for all of us. What makes it especially "unprecedented" is it </span><span style="font-size: large;"><i>is</i> </span><span style="font-size: large;">happening to all of us. It's not just "over there." We won't all be impacted exactly the same, but every life is altered. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I have a rule: When something has been recommended to me one time, I consider it, when it happens a second time, I look into it seriously, and when for a third time it comes up, I jump. That's what happened with Brené Brown's new podcast, "Unlocking Us." Yesterday, I listened to two, <a href="https://brenebrown.com/podcast/brene-on-ffts/">FFTs</a> and <a href="https://brenebrown.com/podcast/brene-on-comparative-suffering-the-50-50-myth-and-settling-the-ball/">Comparative Suffering</a>. I highly recommend you listen to both, ASAP. I'm finding it really hard to settle down and read a book, but I can listen to a podcast with my head phones on, and do laundry, cook, or very satisfying chores such as deep cleaning the stove top. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">At the end of her reading she said, "This is all subject to change and free will." </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Not to the degree things have changed since then. My free will is working overtime to adjust to the rapidly changing developments in my world, and the greater world. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I'm seeing lots of posts on how people are "trying to stay busy." I get that. I am by nature a busy bee. I can create work for myself like no other. If ever there were a time, however, to stop being "busy," it is now. We are quite literally, being called into life within a hermitage.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">The re-set button has been pushed. We've been given lots of requests to do so, but most of us have not heeded those first subtle, then more imploring signs. That's my humble opinion. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">When I'm not playing Millennial Monopoly, Scattergories, Uno or our new favorite game, Just One, I'm sneaking out with Honey for walks, alone, to listen to my go-tos: Eckhart Tolle* and Richard Rohr** They are both responding to these times we're living in, with their deep wisdom, intellect and heart.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">There are lessons galore in all this, and tremendous opportunity for change, creation, innovation, pulling together. Something new will emerge, it's the New Earth Eckhart has been talking about for years, and Richard Rohr calls the Universal Christ (a.k.a Another Name for Everything). </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">** <a href="https://eckharttolle.com/free-resources/?utm_campaign=Message%20to%20Community%203-20-2020%20(JtXbyH)&utm_medium=email&utm_source=CC%20on%20all%20emails&_ke=eyJrbF9lbWFpbCI6ICJzaWJ5bGNAc291bmRzdHJ1ZS5jb20iLCAia2xfY29tcGFueV9pZCI6ICJOazd6WmIifQ%3D%3D">A Message from Eckhart re: pandemic</a></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Had that dream again last night, but it had a coronavirus twist. There was no school being held, but I was still supposed to do my job--from home. The students were going to come to my house, so I was scrambling to prepare with what I had at home. I went through files and pulled out activities I thought they would enjoy, and I could teach from my dining room. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">That was before the coronavirus. Less than two weeks ago I felt on track. Since then, Wil’s volunteer work at the Catholic schools is on hold for at least six more weeks. The Archdiocese of Portland has cancelled all Catholic Masses for at least another month. His Monday class with Timmy at PHAME was cancelled for the rest of this term, and just yesterday, we got notice they will not be having classes in the spring. It’s quite possible Portland will be one of the next “shelter-in-place” cities, forcing us to stay inside our homes except to go out for essential groceries. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Every single thing on my calendar has been cancelled: appointments, time with friends, gatherings with my Sacred Circle. It was Chris’s idea to set us all up on Zoom and do a virtual gathering. While it will not have the same palpable energy in the room when we’re all together, it will be nice to connect. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">The last time we gathered was at my house. After we blew out all the white candles in tall glass jars—the ones Anne decorated with bits of twine and green ribbon she’d gotten from a trip to New Orleans—I let the wax harden before putting them in a box. It was my intent to bring them to the next gathering and leave them with that host. We had a system. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">After finally arriving on the second and fourth Thursdays of every month as our meeting time, the next gathering turned out to be Spring Break. I would not be in town. <i>I’ll just drop off the candles to Cindy’s before I leave town</i>, I thought. Then after they moved their meeting to Zoom, I realized I could “attend,” and maybe I would want my own candle to light while gathering. Maybe everyone would want theirs, too. We might all want to have our individual light join with our Circle’s both through the Internet and in ways that stretch far beyond. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">I texted the group before heading out the door. I was going to take the whole box to Cindy’s so she could light them all when we met online, or I was going to drive all over town and drop off each one separately. Regardless, I was leaving my house, alone. I would put on a podcast and look at the trees blossoming all around me. I would see signs of spring despite the fact the circumstances felt like the dead of winter. “I’m on my way to Cindy’s to drop off the candles, but I was wondering if you’d rather each have your own back? I am happy, (<i>thrilled</i>) to deliver them each to your front porches. Just let me know your preference.” They quickly responded that yes, they could use the light, they’d be grateful to have a part of a greater whole.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">To plan my route I consulted Stan. To say I am directionally challenged is an understatement. I could plug in each address into my phone and rely on GPS, but I knew I’d be zig-zagging around in an inefficient way, and I also knew this was the kind of task he’d light up about. I gave him the addresses, he put them on a Post-It then numbered them for me. “You’re going to want to start with the one on NE 9<span style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"><sup>th</sup></span>. That’s right where Jeff and Jill used to live. You know that area.” </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Yes, I know that area. Our marriage began in a house right up the street from there. I got the candles and my list in the car, plugged in Enlightened Empaths, and set out. There were so few cars on the road it felt eerie, and I felt guilty. I was still practicing “social-distancing,” no one would see me or be anywhere near me. The six-foot-apart rule would not be broken. </span></div>
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Carrie Wilson Linkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586157395539583862noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6190519338493655360.post-84602811155183385362020-03-14T05:21:00.001-07:002020-03-14T09:18:48.906-07:00A Simple Prayer<span style="font-size: large;">We have lost a beloved member of our community, Dottie. Not long ago she learned she had Stage 4 pancreatic cancer. Now, she is gone. Dottie and Wil had a special bond. She was a neighbor, parishioner, cool grandma-like person to him. They made each other laugh. Several times she and her husband had Wil over to hang out--once, I was invited too. The four of us sat around the table and had snacks and drinks and yucked it up.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span>Carrie Wilson Linkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586157395539583862noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6190519338493655360.post-33972770834117303952020-03-13T06:02:00.000-07:002020-03-13T06:02:24.628-07:00Crossing to Safety<span style="font-size: large;">Had a dream I was trying to cross a bog, but the water was deep. The only way to get across was to hang onto the reeds. While in the midst, grabbing first one clump of reeds and then reaching for the next clump, slowly making my way to the land, I kept calling out to the people on the other side, "Which way am I going?" I was confused and disoriented, couldn't see or make out where I was in relation to where I needed to be to be safe. No one on the other side would answer me. It was all up to me. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Let's help each other cross safely to the other side of this--shall we?</span>Carrie Wilson Linkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586157395539583862noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6190519338493655360.post-85972672859282100772020-03-11T07:23:00.000-07:002020-03-11T07:31:53.406-07:00Appointment with PeaceTo say these are dicey times, is an understatement. I think we're all feeling it--some are tapping into the collective angst and adding it to their own, and, well, it's a lot.<br />
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If you are looking for a helpful tool to use to quiet and focus the mind, I highly recommend this oracle deck by <a href="https://soniachoquette.net/about/">Sonja Choquette</a>, <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Trust-Your-Vibes-Oracle-Cards/dp/1401903223/ref=sr_1_2?crid=3BNW9PMRBBPOL&keywords=trust+your+vibes+oracle+cards&qid=1583934703&sprefix=trust+your+vibes%2Caps%2C203&sr=8-2">Trust Your Vibes</a>. Today, I drew the card, "Meditate." There is a guidebook that goes with the cards, that has short, helpful summaries of the cards. The guidebook ends the description of the "Meditate" card with the words, "It's your appointment with peace."<br />
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Regardless of whether you are or are not an empath, do yourself a favor and check out the podcast, <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enlightened-empaths/id1291017961">Enlightened Empaths</a>, available on all streaming platforms. You will love the hosts, <a href="https://samanthafey.com/">Samantha Fey</a> and <a href="https://www.thegratefulmessenger.com/">Denise Correll</a>. They are fun and easy to listen to, and have amazing guests and discussions. </div>
Carrie Wilson Linkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586157395539583862noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6190519338493655360.post-60599323807539263492020-03-08T06:38:00.001-07:002020-03-08T06:55:17.688-07:00The Hole<div style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-indent: 18px;">
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Carrie Wilson Linkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586157395539583862noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6190519338493655360.post-69821497609762742042019-09-12T08:42:00.000-07:002019-09-12T08:42:08.598-07:00ContemplationDriving a car without brakes--stopping the card Fred Flintstone style, new year at college with new roommates, a house so filled-to-over-flowing, I will be required to share a bed with a stranger, these are but a sampling of my dreams of late.<br />
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Obviously, anxiety dreams, specifically about being asked to do too much, sometimes requiring super-human strength.<br />
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My husband often says that the hardest part about his job, is switching gears. If he can go into work and go from start to finish on whatever it is, it's easy. It's the constant interruptions, the putting out of fires, the pulls in opposite directions that require a hitting of the brakes, a shift of gears, and a revving up, over and over and over again, that is the most exhausting. Just like buying a used car--you want to find one that has mostly highway miles, and not a lot of town driving. All that town driving takes its toll.<br />
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Speaking of traffic, I recently heard Portland is the 10th worst city in the nation. Everyone I know is complaining about it. It's noticeably worse than it used to be, there are no more secret shortcuts, and it's become too difficult to avoid, it's bleeding into all day, every day.<br />
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The car without brakes.<br />
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The constantly shifting gears.<br />
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The traffic.<br />
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I think what I am feeling and experiencing is far from unique, in fact, I may be tapping into the collective.<br />
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Becoming contemplative, staying present, breathing. These are the antidotes. Those to whom I most often turn are: <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/oprah-and-eckhart-tolle-a-new-earth/id1458654443">Eckhart Tolle: A New Earth</a> and <a href="https://cac.org/richard-rohr/another-name-for-every-thing-a-podcast-with-richard-rohr/">Richard Rohr: Another Name for Everything</a>. They center me, return me to more of a state of equilibrium, remind me that peace begins within.<br />
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<br />Carrie Wilson Linkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586157395539583862noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6190519338493655360.post-79819599924683974442019-09-05T06:15:00.000-07:002019-09-05T06:15:53.971-07:00A Year<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">
Our sweet Flicka was put "up" a year ago. We continue to miss her. When we look through old pictures, she is in so many, always by someone's side, quietly holding space. She was a true angel in the form of a black Lab, and she continues to be an angel in all our lives.</div>
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When she was buried, we made a little memorial area for her. Yesterday, on the anniversary of her death, I refreshed the planted flowers, cut some fresh ones, and lit her Mary candle for the day. When we went outside in the evening to have a little toast to her, Honey came, too. After we sat down on the patio and gazed upon the memorial, we noticed Honey repositioning herself, as though she wanted to be right next to Flicka. Yes, the spot she chose was in the sun, but there were lots of other sunny spots in the yard--she picked that one.</div>
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A year ago, we swore we'd never get another dog. No way. Wouldn't even consider it.</div>
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Some of my life's greatest blessings fell from the sky, showed up out of no where, with no effort--and often resistance--on my part.</div>
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Thank you for all your work on both sides of the veil, Flicka.</div>
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<br />Carrie Wilson Linkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586157395539583862noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6190519338493655360.post-68388046309346015922019-09-04T05:36:00.000-07:002019-09-04T05:36:30.089-07:00GreatWent to Trader Joe's on Sunday, and there was a man selling Hermiston watermelons on the corner of the parking lot. He had a white van, a couple Costco tables, and a huge box full of watermelons. On the tables were selected watermelons, their ripeness visible from the way he'd turned them. Along the inner edge of the tables was a row of homemade corn muffins.<br />
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I parked my car, and walked over to the man. He swallowed whatever he was chewing--presumably a corn muffin--wiped the crumbs from his face, and extended his big, warm hand to me. He was several inches shorter than me, and I noticed a walker pushed up against a nearby tree.<br />
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"I'm Gray," I thought I heard him say.<br />
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"I'm Carrie," I said.<br />
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"I just lied to you, my name is not Great, my name is John. I'm 91 so I get to say and do whatever I want."<br />
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"Nice to meet you, John," I said, noticing his smile full of original, white, straight teeth. His eyes looked 91, but the rest of him belied his age.<br />
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"Which one do you recommend?" I asked, pointing to the watermelons.<br />
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"They're all good--guaranteed. I been doing this for 76 years, in six states," he said, again flashing me his incredible smile.<br />
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I grabbed one, and referred to the crudely made sign, to determine the price. "$7.99/each, 2 for $13."<br />
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Handing him a $10.00 bill I said, "Keep the change."<br />
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"Well, now you gotta take a gift," he said. "I work for that guy," he said, pointing up at the sky, "He told me, 'John, you gotta give people a gift, when they buy one of your watermelons.' I said, 'But I'll go broke!' He said, 'No you won't, John, you gotta give people a gift.' So I made my grandmama's corn muffins. Take your gift."<br />
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I took my gift.Carrie Wilson Linkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586157395539583862noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6190519338493655360.post-2100173002498170472019-09-03T14:13:00.002-07:002019-09-03T14:13:36.768-07:00First Day of School<br />
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For me, the day after Labor Day, will always feel like the first day of a new year--much more so than January first. First as a student, then as a teacher, then a mother of students, there are a lot of first days of school in the rearview mirror.</div>
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I miss back-to-school shopping. I miss getting a classroom ready. I miss the organizing and newness, the fresh start with new supplies and a ready attitude. Good thing I have a friend that's an elementary teacher, and she lets me come in and write names on name tags, mail boxes, folders and notebooks.<br />
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Portland Public Schools actually started last week, so the school right down the street from me, had all that eager energy a week before I was prepared for it.<br />
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Today is the day I am ready to start again.<br />
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This 2019-2020 school year, I am vowing to waste less time--especially with my phone. If I have five minutes here, ten minutes there, I will pick up a book. Or, I will take one of the 78 Tarot cards I've always wanted to understand, and study it, learn its intricacies, with the hope that end of this school year, I, too, will have been a student. I will keep a journal, and jot down my thoughts, ideas, gratitudes and concerns. I will not settle into a laziness, but continue to strive, grow, challenge and expand.<br />
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Off I go...<br />
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<br />Carrie Wilson Linkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586157395539583862noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6190519338493655360.post-30291339470775909882019-06-05T11:43:00.001-07:002019-06-05T11:43:23.772-07:00Big Questions of the DayHad a dream last night that I was in the house I'd grown up in, and intruders entered. Several of them. Six? Eight? More? Men and women, non-threatening, but in they came and they wouldn't leave, despite me asking them to, repeatedly.<br />
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I reached for my phone and called 911. The operator said, "I can't find a pen right now, can you call back?"<br />
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I woke up.<br />
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But I can't shake it.<br />
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We had recently been in Eugene visiting my brother and his family, and they live in my childhood home. They still have the four yellow chairs we bought in the 70s, to go with the groovy coordinating, yet not matching, floral and striped wallpaper. Two walls each as I recall, but I can't be sure. Two orange chairs and four yellow.<br />
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My nephew didn't know the history of the yellow chairs, so when I got home I searched through thousands of unorganized photos on my laptop, to find one with a yellow chair. Found one, but it only had the tiniest tip showing. Just enough to give you proof, but not enough to really satisfy.<br />
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Where did the two orange chairs go?<br />
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Why the intruders? What part of me is intruding?<br />
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What part of me "can't find a pen" ?<br />
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What part of me doesn't match?<br />
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What part of me got left behind?<br />
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<br />Carrie Wilson Linkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586157395539583862noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6190519338493655360.post-57458865818153084172019-03-07T05:25:00.000-08:002019-03-07T05:25:56.196-08:00Figurative Fasting<br />
Yesterday was Ash Wednesday - the beginning of Lent. Forty days with a focus on fasting, praying, and giving. I had been thinking about what I wanted to fast from, for many months, and had come up with being negative/critical/complaining. I was hoping I could make it to lunch without breaking my fast.<br />
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I am teaching a small group of kids at church, preparing to be baptized at Easter. With ash crosses marked upon each of our foreheads, we discussed what we'd learned at Mass earlier that day: the meaning of Lent, the symbolism of the ashes, and what we were going to do during our own individual Lenten journeys.<br />
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One of the older students, a sponsor to a younger student, after a group discussion about giving up Xbox, iPods, candy, sweets, etc., said she was a going to do "more of a figurative fast." It's not my place to publish her personal decision on what to fast from, but suffice it to say, I was blown away by her maturity, wisdom, perspective, and approach. It gave me both hope for humanity, and raised my own bar. She shared that she'd made this same journey a few years ago, but had decided it was time to bring it back around again, now that she's older and sees it differently.<br />
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I am listening to Eckhart Tolle and Oprah's Super Soul Conversation podcasts on <i>A New Earth: Awakening to you Life's Purpose. </i>I've listened to each one at least twice already, and many years ago when they did their webcasts, I listened and re-listened over and over again throughout the years. It seems to take repetition to break through to any kind of deeper understanding. Even then, the tendency to "forget" is strong.<br />
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And so with the help of Eckhart to become more conscious, more in alignment with my inner purpose, to be in the Now, I step forward into Lent. More mindful of that from which I am fasting. More prayerful. More giving.<br />
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Amen.Carrie Wilson Linkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586157395539583862noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6190519338493655360.post-55468337829260703912019-02-20T05:00:00.000-08:002019-02-20T05:00:01.087-08:00Annual Needs AssessmentYesterday was Wil's annual needs assessment. Oregon has moved away from the ANA, and is now conducting the Oregon Needs Assessment, which, thankfully, only needs to be done every five years. "Unless that changes... you know how things are always changing," Wil's Personal Agent said.<br />
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Yes. I know how things are always changing.<br />
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What doesn't change is the PTSD the needs assessment activates. Because of the new tool, and new rules that come with it, Wil's PA came as support and for advocacy, but a second person came to administer the assessment. Through emails with the PA, I was well-prepared for what would happen, how long it would take, and what was expected from Wil. For the 100-minute appointment, Wil was asked to partake for 30. Much pre-paving and elaborate scheduling to assure he was well-fed, under-scheduled, etc. took place.<br />
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The PA and the assessor, in 30 minutes, <i>got that</i>. And more. They really <i>saw</i> and <i>heard</i> and <i>gathered</i> and <i>gleaned. </i>The three of us were able to finish the assessment without Wil, and there was a sense of teamwork, Team Wil. AND, Team Care.<br />
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If anything, the convincing was on their part. They could tell that there are a million-and-one ways I personally support Wil in a day, many I am not even aware of, because they've always been there.<br />
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This is my first experience in nearly 23 years, of being accurately, and fully seen and understood by an outsider.<br />
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It is empowering, humbling, liberating, validating, and a little unsettling. It's Brené Brown-level vulnerability.<br />
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I highly recommend it.Carrie Wilson Linkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586157395539583862noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6190519338493655360.post-88225293938630057152019-02-15T05:50:00.003-08:002019-02-15T05:50:54.462-08:0056It's been awhile. Sorry about that. I've been working on a "new" memoir. "New" can only be said using quotation marks, as it's been many years in the making, but has been started and re-started, many times. I haven't quite landed on "it." I will know when I'm there, but the path is that of a maze: the dead ends are many, and the way through, not obvious.<br />
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Turned 56, yesterday. Closer to 60 than to 50 brings with it mixed emotions, mostly good. Our nest is full. Woohoo lives here again, and we are once again, a full-time family of four.<br />
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Been listening to Eckhart Tolle and Oprah's new podcast on A NEW EARTH: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose. I went through the original series they did together, many times. Life and times have changed, and it's almost like hearing it all again for the first time, but with a twist -that stir of remembering.<br />
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It occurs to me, not for the first time, that Wil does not have a Pain Body, nor an ego. He is not triggered. He does nothing because it makes him look/sound/seem good. He holds no grudges, no anxiety about his future (beyond what we're doing on Monday). He lives a life of presence and consciousness. He vibrates at a higher frequency than mere mortals. To have the opportunity to live with such an example, is an (exhausting) honor.<br />
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What else? Honey. Honey is the best. We believe Flicka brought Honey into our life, and we couldn't love her more. She is easy. Apart from the shedding, she is perfect. Woohoo recently took her to the Oregon Coast. If you're in need of a pick-me-up, watch this:<br />
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