Thursday, February 24, 2011

Limited Skills



I am very, very bad at a very long list of things, and as it turns out, many of those are pretty much life skills: cooking, even a crude sense of direction and with alarming increase, memory of any sort.

When I was visiting Terry I was wiping off the kitchen counter with a soapy sponge. “I wish you lived here,” she said with sincerity.

“It’s one of the very few things I do well,” I said, to which she said, “True,” which is true, and she is the truth teller, and that is just one of the many things she does well. I was not offended. It is true. I am excellent at wiping down a surface. Now, while that comes in handy several (hundreds) of times a day, it is not all that great or useful in the overall scheme of things.

I honestly don’t think I am any longer hirable. I have no job skills to speak of, and forget about being technologically minded. There is literally no job on the planet, that I am aware of, for which I am qualified.

Don’t get me wrong; I think I’m it on a stick. This is not about my self-esteem, which is excellent and in very good working order. I have just slowly and surely come to understand and accept that I have my own set of challenges, and that is okay. One of the many gifts of having a child with challenges, is over time, you just don’t care anymore about the things at one time you cared very much about: keeping up, looking good, and being normal.

My conversation with Terry turned into what I am good at, and the thing that is most interesting to me about that process, was not only how hard it was to come up with a list of more than a few things, but to look at the list and be good with it. Here's what I mean: what I am good at, I am very good at, and recognizing my strengths and not only acknowledging them but being good with them, was harder than recognizing and being good with my weaknesses. Why is it that we, as humans, find it easier to list and accept our weaknesses, than to list and accept our strengths, not only accept, but really step into? Really become our highest selves by embracing our path, the one our strengths help illuminate?

9 comments:

Wanda said...

Yeah. This is kinda like my "You don't have to" post. We are not of this world, but definitely IN this world.

Deb Shucka said...

There is a quote out there about how frightened we'd be at our power if we were able to really receive and own the gifts we hold, and that our fear limits us. It sounds like you're one step closer to embracing your full self.

fullsoulahead.com said...

You are good at a zillion things. AND you are fun.

Leslie said...

I am a great Windex-er!

kario said...

I think if you look at the list of things you excel at from a broad perspective, you will see a pattern emerge and, while those things are not necessarily valued in the corporate world, I'm pretty sure they have no idea how much they need your skills in that world.

I love that you have chosen to value who you are. The rest of us certainly do, too!

jess said...

Your good - ludicrously good - at THIS. At writing things that connect us to our deepest fears, our greatest hopes, YOU, and ourselves, whomever or wherever we may be.

Love.

Brenda said...

I love thinking about things like this. And why it's so hard for us to name and embrace our strengths. Maybe narrow, but really deep strengths? And that's okay?

Amber said...

Man, I have been thinking this about myself! I think just being home with kids makes this true for so many women. We DO lose "work" skills!! How could we not? I think this is a topic we do not talk about very much... I am greatful to be home with my kids, but I also feel more and more that I need to reframe my life. Even why I went to school. What good I do, and what I am good at.
I'm also a good wiper-downer... ;)

:)

Terry said...

The truth teller agrees... while you are an outstanding counter-cleaner, your skill in connecting the spiritual dots (efficiently) for yourself and others is unparalleled!